Things Worth Keeping

I’ve been thinking a lot about decluttering this past week, and about what things are worth keeping. Of course, once I start considering a life with less things in my space, I get bombarded with ads from retailers showing me all the cute summer clothes I need in my closet even though I’m not going anywhere and all the little gadgets to make simple daily tasks even more simple.

My financial goals the past two years have resulted in me buying less clothes and trying to be more conservative with my funds, but I still have an abundance of clothes and sentimental items from years past. I’ve also been buying books again. To be fair, I bought three books last August, and three books this past month. I did buy another book earlier this year, but I’m not counting that one because it was more like a pamphlet when I received it and it ended up getting donated to the thrift store before I bothered to finish it.

One thing about me is when I decide to do something, I usually go full speed at it and end up doing too much at once. I’m trying to keep myself from trashing half my belongings and regretting it later. Instead, I want to be realistic about how I purge things and clean my space out slowly over the next few months.

What I know for sure is I want to simplify my wardrobe. I tend to wear the same few pieces whether I’m lounging at home, going into the office to check the mail (which I will no longer be doing now that I’ve moved), or going out to run errands. I like the idea of having many options, but I don’t utilize all the options I have. The same goes for my collection of nail polish. I’m learning to only hold on to items of value and frequent use.

The top items I know are worth keeping (and that I would like more of) are books. Books are also the heaviest items to move, so that’s a consideration when deciding to buy more of them while living in a temporary space. Books add value to my space and my life in general, and I love the way they look. I love that I love books. I love reading books, and I believe I’m going to love writing books once I get my first one completed and have a better idea of what I’m doing as a self-published author.

I used to have a large collection of books, but they weren’t all worth keeping, so I purged my collection and started this blog to keep a record of the books I once owned. Now, I am more intentional about the books I buy because I only want to buy books I intend to keep in my collection. My reading, like my movie watching, is indiscriminate. I will read (and watch) almost anything if it sounds interesting. But just like bad Netflix movies I never intend to watch again, there are books I do not want cluttering my shelves.

My intention for my bookshelves is for anyone who comes by and picks a book from the shelf to inquire about is met with an enthusiastic encouragement from me about reading said book. However, I don’t intend for the books I own to be lenders. I have learned my lesson about lending books I love because I do not get them back and end up having to repurchase. I enjoy recommending books that I enjoy, but you can’t have my copy!

I will be teaching myself lessons about things worth keeping over the next few months, but one thing I know for sure is my books aren’t going anywhere!

What do you enjoy collecting and how do you keep your collection from taking over your space? Is there anything you feel is worth keeping regardless of a need to declutter? Let me know in the comments.

Making Space

I don’t know if I’ve told you this before, but I feel like I’ve lost myself. I’ve been in survival mode for several months, and I feel like I have lost the best parts of who I am. I’ve lost the parts that love reading, writing, and learning. I’ve forced myself through workdays when all I wanted to do was lay in bed; I’ve watched endless hours of TV because it requires nothing of me. I’ve struggled to make it here every week.

Last week I decided to sign up for MasterClass. I haven’t done it yet, but I will. This week, I’m considering signing up for Skillshare as well. I’m trying to get back to the place where I spend more time learning things than watching things. But, I’ve also come to understand that the reason I enjoy watching TV so much is because I love stories. I love telling stories and I love watching stories being told. I watch 15 different medical dramas because, even though the general storylines are very similar, the characters are different and have specific stories of their own.

This post isn’t about how much TV I watch. It’s about making space for myself. I’m actively taking steps to clear my headspace so that I can find my way back to the things I love most. It’s difficult when you spend all day at a job that takes a lot out of you mentally, but I’m working on it. I’m ending relationships that take away from me mentally and emotionally, I’m intentionally letting go of my work day when I clock out, and I’m looking for ways to spark the parts of me that have gone dark over the past year.

The book is still coming. Slowly. It’s more of a financial hold than anything else. All the things I want to newly incorporate into my life are stretching my finances, but I do feel they are necessary. I’m trying to love myself more by giving myself more. Giving gifts is my strongest love language when it comes to how I show love to others, and I’m finally learning to direct that love to myself. I upgraded my laptop a couple of weeks ago. Something I should’ve done over a year ago.

Replacing things that aren’t broken, even when they don’t work well, is difficult for me. And that goes for relationships as well as things. I’m making space for myself by ending relationships that I’ve held onto for too long, replacing a laptop that I’ve held onto for too long, and introducing new things that I’ve neglected for too long.

Thank you for journeying with me. I have so much vision for what NINE & TWO can be… will be… but I’ve got to make more space so I have room to grow this thing and grow myself along with it.

I’m reading again… but I’m also really into this show on Netflix, so it’s a daily struggle between reading a few more pages and watching a few more episodes. Episodes usually win, but I’m working on that.

Until next time…

Happy Reading!